Couples counselling

Communication Problems in Relationships: Couples Counselling in Essex

When communication breaks down, even small things become big arguments. Couples counselling helps you talk and listen again.

Understanding

Why does communication break down in relationships?

Communication often breaks down when we feel unheard, criticised or unsafe. Couples fall into repeating cycles such as attack and defend, or pursue and withdraw.

Counselling helps you see the cycle, understand what is underneath and find calmer ways to talk.

You may recognise

  • Repeating the same arguments
  • Feeling unheard
  • Silence or avoidance
  • Criticism or defensiveness
  • Small things becoming big rows
  • Feeling like flatmates

How I help

A gentle, tailored approach

Seeing the cycle

Understanding the pattern you are both stuck in.

Listening and speaking

Practical ways to be heard.

Reconnecting

Rebuilding warmth and understanding.

Questions

Frequently asked questions

Can communication really improve?

Yes. Many couples find that understanding the pattern changes how they speak to each other.

What if we both talk over each other?

I make sure each of you has space to be heard.

About Clare Kiernan

Why Essex Therapy

I bring over 25 years of counselling experience, a compassionate, collaborative and evidence-informed approach, and a commitment to working at your pace. I am a BACP accredited counsellor and qualified clinical supervisor.

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